Bob Stanley sensed that he had instincts which might be dangerous, and so he tried to restrain and control them. As a result, he may adopt a fairly ascetic lifestyle. His attitude, which denied the vital importance of the most archaic and darkest forces within him, was not entirely innocuous. If he hoped for a more harmonious development, he would do well to realize that instincts can be tamed; they do not react positively to being trampled.
Bob Stanley’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, Bob has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In Bob’s relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. Bob could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Bob Stanley is affectionate by nature, and love plays a decisive and central role in his life. He is a charmer who needs to love and be loved. Aware of his personal magnetism and the power it gives him, he will make subtle changes in himself in order to attract positive attention. He is sophisticated and pleased to savor a lifestyle he sees as a consummate art.
Bob Stanley is vigorous and energetic. He has an immense need to assert his individuality and his attitudes and actions are actually motivated by an unconscious desire for power. His lively, alert, and determined personality puzzles the people close to him, who cannot understand whether his behavior is the result of pure selfishness or merely of an excess of energy. He has a short temper and must learn to control his impulsiveness, which might expose him to a great deal of unnecessary conflict.
Bob Stanley was sober and reserved and may even strike people as rigid and austere at times. Perhaps he was raised in an atmosphere of rigor and sobriety as a child, and, as a result, became an adult a little too fast. In any case, he quickly acquired a spirit of self-sufficiency and a strong sense of his personal dignity and worth. At work, he was skillful, meticulous, conscientious, and efficient, but his lack of self confidence and personal assurance hindered his decision-making skills. Although he would deserve a prominent executive position, he might refuse any that are offered due to his fear of being in the limelight. He was aware that early success was often short-lived and fragile and that time rewards those who are patient, which, in his case, was true. The psychological mechanisms described above were probably the result of a paternal complex. In childhood, his identity may have been too strongly attached to that of his father or a father figure, for one of the following reasons:- the bond with his father was too close,- his father was absent and/or idealized,- his father was too strict, etc.In any case, this psychological particularity can act either as a handicap or as an opportunity for the individual to overcome yourself. It will result in two groups of opposite but complementary reactions which will rule his behavior all his life:- hypersensitivity or insensitivity- intense life wish or discomfort with life- obsession or renunciation- skepticism or fanaticism- asceticism or lust- jealousy or indifference- effort or lazinessThe so-called “Saturnian” phases (at age 7, 14, 21, 28 or 29, and 35 years) will be transitional periods that give him an opportunity to resolve this complex in real life.
Although Bob Stanley keeps a tight grip on his emotions, he has an appetite for intense emotional thrills, especially in his relationships, and is sometimes upset by them. Feelings of insecurity may keep him from expressing his emotions, and he tends at times to become jealous or possessive of the person he loves. The force of his emotional drives is intense and especially evident when he has been wounded in some way in the course of a love affair, or if he feels as though someone, a friend or lover, has betrayed him. He has a tendency to be masochistic and thrive on suffering. He may abandon himself to his emotional fears and trifle with his inner vulnerability.
Bob Stanley is pragmatic and realistic. He evaluates people and things according to practical, common-sense criteria instead of abstract concepts. A sensualist and lover of luxury, he has a penchant for material comfort and takes great joy in physical pleasures. In relation to others, socially and privately, he likes to build stable relationships and is not especially fond of change. His warmth gives him a great deal of ease when meeting people, as clients (for business purposes), but his close relations also benefit from this affection and his ability to express his feelings naturally and openly.
Bob Stanley maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Bob Stanley has a sensitive personality. He may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. He is subject to cyclical energy flows and go from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in his behavior may be explained by emotional problems he may have experienced in infancy: his mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Although Bob Stanley’s demeanor is cool and distant, he is extremely sensitive. In some cases, his rather austere and rigid behavior and his refusal to yield too readily to sentimentality discourage others from being too demonstrative of their tenderness and affection. He has spells of melancholy in which he does not feel worthy of being loved and tend to forbid himself any emotional fulfillment whatsoever. An austere or somewhat traumatic childhood experience may be the source of this behavior. It is difficult for his inner self to be detached from this past life, and he sometimes has trouble reconciling the image he has of himself as an adult with the one he acquired back then. The idea he has of himself as an individual is related to the image his parents projected onto him as a child. Nevertheless, the past is history, and he is now an adult. Through self-work, he can rid himself of these phantoms. He has the ability to overcome his mistakes, as well as great endurance and will power to achieve his goals. Nevertheless, he must not repress his sensitivity in order to succeed.
Bob Stanley felt insecure. Although he was pragmatic and relatively realistic, at times he was tormented by an insidious feeling of insecurity which interfered with his ability to grasp reality. Change unnerved him, and at certain times he tended to cling to old-fashioned customs or lifestyles. Insecurities might cause him to repress his emotional needs.
Bob Stanley’s sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with his instincts. This inner discord makes him a fairly complicated relationship partner, and his behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. He is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of his life, and his relationships are most often motivated by his desires. Nevertheless, due to his unconscious inner battle, he does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling his emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of his instincts, passion may overwhelm him and drag him into situations he cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.
Bob Stanley’s attractions are usually immediate and intense. They rise quickly to fever pitch. The story of these passions is often dramatic to excess, combining all the plot elements of a classic love tragedy: jealousy, possessiveness, agony as an erotic stimulant, etc.
Bob Stanley’s birth chart indicates a somewhat introverted emotional function which is influenced by the cultural values traditional to his family and social class. Because he does not always trust his emotional urges and reactions, he generally prefers to hang back and acquire some perspective before committing himself emotionally.
Bob Stanley’s emotional involvement might be the source of some dissatisfaction for him. The usual romantic behavior and the lifestyle values prevailing in this area are not really appropriate for him. As a result, he seeks few intimate emotional relationships or contacts. He tends to stay in the background and fulfill his emotional needs by sublimating. He might not attain full romantic satisfaction until he reaches middle age.
Bob Stanley wields his wiles of sensual fascination and kindness with the purpose of controlling the other in addition to being loved. He is subject to intense and sometimes tragic passions, in which ecstasy and pain, jealousy and tenderness mingle inextricably. However, it is possible that as time goes on, he may succeed in overcoming his instincts, and be able to devote himself to the mate he has chosen in a positive and creative way.
Bob Stanley feels an odd and mysterious power of attraction towards others. But he is irresistibly drawn to partners who break his heart, and he seems to have an affinity for relationships that are intense and tormented. In a rage of disappointment, he is likely to go from total love to total indifference. He is especially drawn to people who possessive and complex.
Bob Stanley may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive him to seek pleasure. His need for romantic fulfillment may compel him to marry, because he also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that he had indeed achieved success. However, privately, he might be less committed to certain obligations and duties.
Bob Stanley is an ardent and amorous character. His relationships with the other sex are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, Bob Stanley is often more in love with the idea of love than with his partners. As a result, his love life may be subject to some instability. Bob Stanley is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate him. Love is often a matter of luck with Bob Stanley. Even when a relationship falls apart, he does not see the experience as a failure or a tragedy; instead, he seems to learn valuable lessons from his mistakes. Psychologically, his emotion contributes positively and efficiently to his evolution. From another standpoint, his acute sensitivity predisposes him to original and subtle tastes; he is so receptive to beauty and attached to the concepts of truth and balance that they may all combine to yield remarkable creative potential.
You are an extremely complex individual, full of contradictions. Because you sometimes feel vulnerable emotionally, you try to control not only your own feelings and urges, but may also strive to manipulate those of your partners. You aspire to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning yourself and yielding to the other terrifies you. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because you are guarded and somewhat secretive, you tend to be suspicious and are especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although you are fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, you will not express your feelings unless you are subject to some tension. Life may be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of your emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, you are likely to be attracted by stormy and complicated relationships.
Bob Stanley’s mental aptitudes make him especially good at comparing, evaluating, and weighing information. This intellectual modus operandi has enabled him to develop an innate sense of values, both artistic and ethical, as well as a remarkable ability to relate to other people. His appreciative, conciliatory attitude makes him a skillful diplomat able to untangle conflict situations deftly and with ease. In other situations, his artistic spirit is sensitive to a wide variety of harmonies.
Bob Stanley expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly extroverted and eager to discover and understand the outer world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.
Bob Stanley has a definite taste for expression and communication. He cannot survive without giving voice to his thoughts and speaking to other people. He delights in his own power to persuade, captivate, and sway an audience with his words. Especially attracted to anything new and original, he immediately grasps the utility and value of the latest technology or philosophy, no matter how complicated it may be and has a knack for explaining it to the uninitiated and popularizing it. Because he is fairly high strung, he may have trouble concentrating on a single subject for very long, unless it is a source of intellectual fascination or discovery. He may have to make some effort to overcome this inconsistency. His open-mindedness gives him creativity, which is a valuable commodity in many occupations: teaching, communications, advertising, etc. Regardless of the career he chooses, his personal development will involve intellectual activity and progress.
Bob Stanley has a great deal of intuition but sometimes has problems organizing his thought processes and making an intellectual commitment. The concepts of boundary and structure are inimical to his mind, which is open and all-encompassing, premonitory, and web-like. His thoughts may be verbally indeterminate, vague, and ill defined. He tends to understand or sense things globally, without always noticing their component parts. Usually, he can’t see the trees for the forest. In daily life, although his perceptions are lively and subtle, he may display a kind of absent-mindedness, out of a fear of annoying people with his shrewdness or of fighting to assert himself. His imagination sometimes escapes from the confines of logic, cringing from a confrontation with reality. This unwillingness to face the real world may cause relationship or career challenges.