Bob Smiley is searching for stability; he wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Bob Smiley’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Normally, Bob has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, also grates on his nerves. Bob finds it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Bob Smiley is affectionate by nature and loves playing a decisive and central role in his life. He is a charmer who needs to love and be loved. Aware of his personal magnetism and the power it gives him, he will make subtle changes in himself in order to attract positive attention. He is sophisticated and pleased to savor a lifestyle he sees as a consummate art.
Bob Smiley is always on the move because his personality is ruled by his mind. He needs intellectual stimulation in order to feel fulfilled, and is always on the search for new contacts. Curious about all sorts of different subjects, he takes care to inform himself about many things. He enjoys conversation and communication and hopes to be admired for his talent and wit. Due to his wide variety of interests, however, he can be something of a dilettante and his thinking may sometimes lack discipline.
Bob Smiley maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs might exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Bob Smiley has a sensitive nature. Although he may sometimes have trouble controlling his emotional reactions, they are nevertheless a source of vital energy for a constructive passion and may make an extremely positive contribution to his career. In relations with other people, Bob Smiley is quite friendly; he willingly reaches out to people and knows how to listen to their desires and their problems.
Bob Smiley is an individualist who quickly develops an original and independent identity. He may have first tasted liberty when he challenged the education and values he received from family and class tradition, forging a strong, original personality and philosophy. His relationships are usually free of conflict, because he is able to reconcile his need for independence with his desire for affection. However, his partners should be open and lively people, able to keep pace with him in his rapid evolution. Bob has an inspired and extremely lively wit and a brisk interest in the future, technological progress, and new lifestyles. He would be especially successful in communications-related careers like journalism, film, TV, radio, and advertising. Although Bob is an individualist, he has a powerful desire to contribute to the evolution of society and better its development.
In matters of the heart, Bob Smiley is fairly shy, reserved, and discreet. Even in intimacy, he remains modest and does not always readily express his feelings. He’s sensitive and giving, wishing to be of service to those he loves. He would do well to trust that he deserves to be made as happy as he makes his partner.
Bob Smiley’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of his emotional urges and somewhat wary of his feelings, he tries to rid himself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.
Bob Smiley is constantly subject to nervous tension, which wears him out and exhausts him. His mind and body are always feverishly active. He always tends to do too much, to become obsessed with insignificant details, or to panic when faced with the unexpected. He is likely to marry a partner younger than he, either chronologically or in terms of their sense of duty. But perhaps his second marriage will be more reasonable and satisfying.
Although Bob Smiley is fairly timid and sometimes inhibited about love, he is not made for a dull, routine daily life. He aspires to something else. He may find himself committed to a partner who does not fulfill his aspirations completely.
You have a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. You are emotive and hypersensitive, making you especially vulnerable emotionally, since you are sometimes overwhelmed by your feelings and affects. Although you seek an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom you could maintain blissful, smooth relations, you are sometimes met with disillusionment. Because your rather excessive sensitivity and your need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge your judgment and discernment, so you sometimes form extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When you meet someone, you fall under the enchantment of your dream of ideal love and cannot keep yourself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, you yield to another of your characteristic urges and lose yourself in the individual who is so dear to you, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find yourself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, your psyche is constructed in such a way as to make your sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before you take on any major commitments, you should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates your intense love, for you may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Your tendency to believe in your illusions may mark you as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for you to find a different object for your affections, or a form of sublimation, because you tend to be so disappointed by your great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of your imagination procure artistic refinement for you, and you love the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because your sensitivity also makes it easy for you to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties your peers are struggling with, you might also find it rewarding to commit yourself to social work.
Bob Smiley has a fairly skeptical temperament which relies on remarkable analytical and critical faculties. He is sensitive and curious, a keen observer of facts who collects detailed information he will later pore over and analyze. This type of logical, rational mind is extremely efficient for elaborating methods or sorting and classifying information. However, he sometimes lacks flexibility or broad-mindedness.
Bob Smiley expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly introverted and eager to discover and understand the inner world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.
Bob Smiley is a person who makes mistakes in judgment. He doesn’t always understand social realities or prevailing opinion, and his judgments are often hasty. He also tends to overestimate his abilities and usually aims higher than might be realistic. Once an enterprise or project is underway, Bob may try to avoid obstacles by dodging certain duties. Because Bob’s vision of the world differs somewhat from social realities, he should be extremely careful and scrupulous in regard to legal matters, in order to avoid any complications of that type. Bob is sometimes slightly dishonest in his relations. He may break promises or attempt to duck responsibility. However, Bob should realize that such conduct toward other people is also a form of unconscious self-loathing. If Bob continues to behave in such a way, he is exposing himself to the same lack of sincerity from his partners.
Bob Smiley has a difficult time integrating new ideas and concepts or giving his thought structure coherence. He has a distaste for study and may harbor feelings of insecurity that are so acute they undermine his will. However, if he overcame these emotions, he would see that he has plenty of marketable skills and that many satisfactory solutions to his feelings of ineptitude and inadequacy are within his reach.