Bob Nelson is searching for stability. He wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He should become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Bob Nelson’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Bob Nelson has a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but his energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish his multitude of dreams. He tends to live in osmosis with his environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on him. Usually, he understands phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so he is not in the habit of disciplining or shaping his thought processes. Like his thoughts, his personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, he may have some trouble asserting his individuality and making some personal contribution to society through his career. His tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like his refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for him.
Bob Nelson is a charismatic speaker and compulsive charmer. He has a powerful personal magnetism which may sometimes make him seem arrogant or smug. He cares a great deal about his reputation and will try hard to be admired and appreciated by the people around him. Fond of social events and parties, he likes to be the host, to entertain and charm a captive audience of guests. Indeed, he has special dramatic and artistic talents of the caliber necessary for success in film, theater, fashion, or art in general. He enjoys displaying his generosity, but he also displays a short temper at times; he is easily offended. His partner will have to be a brilliant person, strong and sure of themselves, devoted to him and capable of enhancing his reputation.
Bob Nelson’s intellect is lively, agile, and sensitive. However, he does not always avail himself of it and may be confused or irrational in some situations. Although he enjoys playing with words, ideas, and concepts, his thought sometimes lacks discipline and structure. He is fairly preoccupied with details and may tend to waste his nervous and mental energy in futile verbal outpourings. Moreover, his feelings sometimes blur his objective vision of phenomena and people, which may cause him to make errors in judgment.
Bob Nelson is emotional and tends to react quickly and excessively when his sensitivity is touched. Although he values independence, freedom, and self-sufficiency, he is sometimes frustrated by his need to rely on his family or friends. Moreover, he does not always grant the freedom of other people the same respect as his own. Likewise, he is sometimes angered by expressions of maternal tenderness, as if he feared that it would doom him to eternal dependency. His ambivalent behavior, full of jagged edges, may be traced back to the relationship he had with his mother or a mother figure. Although he was dependent on them, they may have rejected him. Now this attitude is extended to any situation in which his sensitivity comes into play and emotional bonds are likely to form. To ward off his feelings of dependency, he tends to become destructive. Based on denial, his reactions are sometimes fierce, impulsive, and excessive, erratic, or contradictory.
Bob Nelson is looking for the ideal love and tends to idealize his friends and lovers. A bizarre character, Nelson may prefer to dream of his soulmate instead of making love to one; he is more in love with the idea of love than anything else. His idealism may hide a fear of truly committing himself to a relationship; he tries to intellectualize everything. In time, two options will seem clear to Nelson: an amorous friendship based on shared ideas and intellectual exchange, or an open relationship, free of all constraints except mutual respect.
Bob Nelson’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, he is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Bob Nelson, although hoping to play an important role in society and his life, in his relationships is liable to be fooled by appearances. Due to his pride, he is prone to be fooled by appearances, leading to a disappointing or uncertain marriage unless he marries a passive person.
Bob Nelson is an introverted idealist who hides his vulnerability as much from himself as from others. He tends to be misunderstood unless he chooses a marriage of convenience that promotes the union of two ambitions. He might be better advised to opt for the single life and maintain his freedom and independence. Friendship will satisfy his need for affection and conversation.
Bob Nelson may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive him to seek pleasure. His need for romantic fulfillment may compel him to marry, because he also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that he had indeed achieved success. However, privately, he might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, he might deny the commitments that his optimism and expansiveness made him rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting his romantic nature against the prerogatives of his career.
Bob Nelson is a charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, his love life may be subject to some instability. He is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate him. His greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although he merges his ego entirely into the couple, he is likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If his partner charms and captivates him long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with him; otherwise, he is likely to yield to his need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for him. Midlife may be a turning point for him from this point of view. His contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. His behavior enables him to remain aloof, to commit himself only halfway without consciously admitting it to himself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when he loses interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps him from forming stable relationships. Indeed, he is tormented by the struggle between his undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, his romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by his conviction that his partner has become an obstacle to his individual progress. Because he thinks of love as a restraint, he may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, he will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, he is also likely to meet “the one” who inspires him to initiate a change in his behavior.
Bob Nelson has a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. He is emotive and hypersensitive, making him especially vulnerable emotionally, since he is sometimes overwhelmed by his feelings and affects. Although he seeks an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom he could maintain blissful, smooth relations, he is sometimes met with disillusionment. Because his rather excessive sensitivity and his need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge his judgment and discernment, so he sometimes forms extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When he meets someone, he falls under the enchantment of his dream of ideal love and cannot keep himself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, he yields to another of his characteristic urges and loses himself in the individual who is so dear to him, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find himself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, his psyche is constructed in such a way as to make his sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before he takes on any major commitments, he should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates his intense love, for he may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. His tendency to believe in his illusions may mark him as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for him to find a different object for his affections, or a form of sublimation, because he tends to be so disappointed by his great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of his imagination procure artistic refinement for him, and he loves the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because his sensitivity also makes it easy for him to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties his peers are struggling with, he might also find it rewarding to commit himself to social work.
Bob Nelson has a rather irrational mind and a voracious intellect, which is usually subject to the rule of his prolific imagination. Although he is likely to have flashes of intuition which may prove to be correct, his thought processes are sometimes messy and confused. His mind, which is oriented in many different directions at the same time, is ruled by his emotions and feelings. In tune with psychic and parapsychic phenomena, his thinking requires only the adjunct of structure to rise from the level of a blurry, uncertain, undifferentiated mass to that of a really significant vision with a grip on the real world.