If you want to improve yourself, the first thing you need to do is become aware of the weaknesses that are holding you back and preventing your evolution. These could include your need for security, your tendency to escape into fantasy, your hunger for approval, your longing for the past, your fear of the future, and your investment systems.
To trust yourself better and gain self-assurance, the first step is to learn to say no. Once you are capable of saying no to others, you can say yes to life. You must develop your awareness of all the good things in your life and all the changes you hope to make to enjoy life more. This is the foundation that will support you as you evolve, the inexhaustible source and center of the transformation of your personality. Infantile anxieties which arose in childhood when you were helpless may be obstacles to your success, but you can overcome them by freeing yourself from the fears which prevent you from taking full advantage of life. You can succeed if you arrange a relaxed, positive environment for yourself, establish sincere relations with one or two special people, and find a setting – perhaps a yoga class – in which you can practice relaxation exercises.