Bob E Kelly finds it difficult to balance his individual ambitions and his need to give to others. Marriage and friendship can be sources of conflict and disillusion for him.
Bob E Kelly has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding his identity. Perhaps his father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during his childhood, which deprived him of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because he might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, he was forced to protect himself against negative influences and find his own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to him as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with his evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber his mind or inhibit his developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for him to assert himself, and he tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because his authoritarian urges are mainly directed at himself rather than others, he sometimes feels guilty about his behavior. He judges himself severely, and sometimes punishes himself by setting difficult tasks for himself. Gradually, he should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
Bob E Kelly: At the moment of your birth, the two celestial “lights” (the sun and the moon) were symmetrically aligned. This was a portent of harmony between the masculine and feminine archetypes, which is extremely beneficial. It is the source of balance and understanding between the two main psychological realms which may be said to compose the personality. You thus enjoy a positive complementarity and understanding between the conscious and unconscious aspects of your psyche, between your determination and your routines, between your drive for self-assertion and your receptivity, your ideal and your sensitivity. Your parents almost certainly reflected a positive image of the marriage relationship to you, and it is likely that they encouraged you to develop your own individuality. As a result, you were and are able to be comfortable with yourself as you are instead of striving to attain your parents’ ideal. This has definitely contributed to the maintenance of a good relationship with them and the rest of the family. In your emotional relationships with your peers, one of the effects of the masculine/feminine harmony is that the images your ego projects on the other are especially constructive. The bonds of the relationship are not felt to be constraints, the energy which flows between the two people is a source of mutual happiness, not regret. No major personal conflicts are projected onto the “other” – that is, the significant other.
Bob E Kelly
Bob E Kelly has a profound and fertile inner life and a prolific imagination, but his energy resources are not always sufficient to follow through on and accomplish his multitude of dreams. He tends to live in osmosis with his environment, and effort and action take a heavy toll on him. Usually, he understands phenomena and events intuitively, without really making any effort; so he is not in the habit of disciplining or shaping his thought processes. Like his thoughts, his personality is rather amorphous and disorganized. As a result of this lack of structure, he may have some trouble asserting his individuality and making some personal contribution to society through his career. His tendency to shut out reality and dream impossible dreams, like his refusal of responsibility and duty, may be a source of some difficulty for him.
Bob E Kelly has an inalienable awareness of the void and the vanity of existence. He is sometimes disoriented and deconstructed by an unknowable, unconscious force and tends to ignore or disparage the superficial pleasures and pains of daily life, preferring to dive into the depths of human experience as deeply as his intellectual, emotional, and spiritual capacities permit. Grappling with his “fundamental nature,” with the deepest and most primitive part of himself, he is sometimes aghast at the discovery of the sheer power of his instincts and feels an imperious need to cope with them. This special consciousness he has been endowed with is somewhat beyond the bounds of conventional schools of human understanding and thought and may be a source of identity problems for him at the outset. It is not easy for him to recognize himself in any social or narcissistic models, or identify with any existing roles or attitudes, so he sometimes finds himself forced to assert and express his own identity in a way which may strike his contemporaries as strangely intense if not eccentric.
Bob E Kelly
Bob E Kelly has a sensitive nature. Although he may sometimes have trouble controlling his emotional reactions, they are nevertheless a source of vital energy for a constructive passion and may make an extremely positive contribution to his career. In relations with other people, he is quite friendly; he willingly reaches out to people and knows how to listen to their desires and their problems.
Bob E Kelly is sometimes afraid to love. The world of his feelings is characterized by a certain chill and restraint. But he is not unfeeling; on the contrary, his sensitivity is so delicate that he is careful to protect it. His determination to maintain control of his feelings and force his emotions to obey the laws of reason may stand in the way of intimacy and joy.
Bob E Kelly was born with an emotional function that is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, Bob is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Bob E Kelly sits on the line between independence and submission, yearning for freedom that competes with an inclination to be dependent. His strange and captivating charm arises from this contradiction. However, his imagination rules his feelings and emotions, and he is apt to create a dream of the person he loves. This is a treacherous tendency. His tenderness may find itself in search of a partner who is never there or is interested in other things. In this case, he would transfer his affection to other loved ones, such as children, friends, or pets, who will bring him great satisfaction.
Bob E Kelly is attracted to fairly cold and ethereal people despite his strong sex drive. As a result, his emotional life may be reduced to a system of restraints, efforts, duties, and self-denials. However, these romantic interests will have a positive influence on his career and will encourage him in his professional ambitions.
Bob E Kelly may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive him to seek pleasure. His need for romantic fulfillment may compel him to marry, because he also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that he had indeed achieved success. However, privately, he might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, he might deny the commitments that his optimism and expansiveness made him rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting his romantic nature against the prerogatives of his career.
Bob E Kelly is hypersensitive and tends to relive the anxieties, apprehensions, and romantic absolutes of his first love relationships, which occurred around the ages of 13-14 years or 20-21 years. He is exquisitely sensitive, but almost completely barricaded behind a layer of aloofness. He will not settle for anything less than eternal commitment, total harmony, and absolute loyalty. He is sometimes presumed to be cold, even by those close to him. He usually hides his emotional reactions or does not even allow them to reach the level of his consciousness, in an effort to protect his sensitivity, which he sees as his weak point. He is fairly vulnerable, even in the intimacy of a stable and established relationship. Usually, he will disguise his strong feelings as a kind of possessiveness or even jealousy. Certain misfortunes may arouse a negative emotional state inside him, and he feels unworthy of the love which is lavished on him. This psychological prohibition which rules over all of his desires and affects should loosen with the passage of time; likewise, his fear of approaching the other will diminish. As a result, the second part of his romantic life will be more rewarding. In any case, if you want to experience a harmonious love relationship and gratify yourself emotionally, the defense mechanisms you have elaborated to make yourself inaccessible to others will have to be dismantled. Any profound relationship will also require that you learn how to forget yourself occasionally in the other.
Bob E Kelly has an ardent and amorous character, and his relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, he is often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, his love life may be subject to some instability. He is generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate him. His greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although he merges his ego entirely into the couple, he is likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If his partner charms and captivates him long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with him; otherwise, he is likely to yield to his need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for him. Midlife may be a turning point for him from this point of view. His contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. His behavior enables him to remain aloof, to commit himself only halfway without consciously admitting it to himself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when he loses interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps him from forming stable relationships. Indeed, he is tormented by the struggle between his undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, his romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by his conviction that his partner has become an obstacle to his individual progress. Because he thinks of love as a restraint, he may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, he will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, he is also likely to meet “the one” who inspires him to initiate a change in his behavior.
Bob E Kelly is a flexible individual, and his intellectual faculties draw on sudden flashes of pure intuition as well as logical, rational thought. He has progressive, inventive, and sometimes utopian ideas; they usually relate to human or social problems. He always strives to be in the vanguard, creating a better world for the future.
Bob E Kelly expresses his thoughts and ideas in direct, spontaneous outbursts. He is fairly introverted and eager to discover and understand the inner world. An idealist, he looks forward to a bright future but is sometimes subjective and reckless.