Consciousness and The Ideal of Self:
Bella Wylie is searching for stability; Bella Wylie wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for Bella Wylie’s life. But Bella Wylie’s efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, Bella Wylie is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time Bella Wylie reaches what Bella Wylie believes to be a good balance, Bella Wylie realizes Bella Wylie wants something entirely different. Bella Wylie would do well to become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.
Bella Wylie has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding her identity. Perhaps her father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during her childhood, which deprived her of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because she might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, she was forced to protect herself against negative influences and find her own system in order to grow and feel secure.
Although this system was quite useful to her as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with her evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber her mind or inhibit her developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for her to assert herself, and she tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because her authoritarian urges are mainly directed at herself rather than others, she sometimes feels guilty about her behavior. She judges herself severely, and sometimes punishes herself by setting difficult tasks for herself. Gradually, she should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.
At the moment of Bella Wylie’s birth, the two celestial “lights” (the sun and the moon) were symmetrically aligned. This is a portent of harmony between the masculine and feminine archetypes which is extremely beneficial. It is the source of balance and understanding between the two main psychological realms which may be said to compose the personality. Bella thus enjoys a positive complementarity and understanding between the conscious and unconscious aspects of her psyche, between her determination and her routines, between her drive for self-assertion and her receptivity, her ideal and her sensitivity.
Bella’s parents almost certainly reflected a positive image of the marriage relationship to her, and it is likely that they encouraged her to develop her own individuality. As a result, Bella was and is able to be comfortable with herself as she is instead of striving to attain her parents’ ideal. This has definitely contributed to the maintenance of a good relationship with them and the rest of the family.
In Bella’s emotional relationships with her peers, one of the effects of the masculine/feminine harmony is that the images her ego projects on the other are especially constructive. The bonds of the relationship are not felt to be constraints, the energy which flows between the two people is a source of mutual happiness, not regret. No major personal conflicts are projected onto the “other” – that is, the significant other.
Bella Wylie is affectionate by nature, and love plays a decisive and central role in her life. She is a charmer who needs to love and be loved. Aware of her personal magnetism and the power it gives her, she will make subtle changes in herself in order to attract positive attention. She is sophisticated and pleased to savor a lifestyle she sees as a consummate art.
Bella Wylie does not always feel in tune with society’s rules and conventions. The mask of sociability most well-adapted people wear is difficult for Bella to assume, and it is hard for Bella to act out the roles expected of her as a normal member of the community. The usual social values and rewards, like money, respect, and prestige, only mildly interest Bella. Bella’s refusal or inability to play the social game may make it hard for her to find a job, which may have negative consequences on her financial and legal status. Reluctant and unwilling to adapt to the demands of social life, Bella sometimes unwittingly makes mistakes when a new project is in the planning stages. For example, Bella may leave gaps in a job application, botch up an interview with a prospective employer, or make a big mistake when bidding for a contract. But Bella’s financial difficulties may clear up when her emotional ones do.
Adaptation and Sensitivity:
Because Bella Wylie is fond of method and order, she usually prefers to do things according to a pre-established plan. Her behavior mirrors this tendency. She will adopt relatively strict models elaborated on the basis of logical or moral reasons. She does not readily express her personal feelings or emotions and may sometimes strike others as a rigid person. However, her conscientiousness and application make her thrive in a work environment, and she tends to treat social engagements and activities as a form of duty. Her natural taste for clarity, detail, and technique would make her successful as a scientific researcher or high-tech designer.
Bella Wylie has a sensitive and affectionate nature. She seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. Her relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and she has a natural sense of tact and social grace.
Bella Wylie has a sensitive personality. Bella may jump to conclusions, which could disrupt relationships, as well as career plans. Bella is subject to cyclical energy flows and goes from periods of feverish activity to periods of withdrawal and introspection. The aggressive element in Bella’s behavior may be explained by emotional problems Bella may have experienced in infancy: Bella’s mother, or a mother figure, may have had an energetic and volatile personality.
Although Bella Wylie’s demeanor is cool and distant, she is extremely sensitive. In some cases, her rather austere and rigid behavior and refusal to yield too readily to sentimentality discourage others from being too demonstrative of their tenderness and affection. She has spells of melancholy in which she does not feel worthy of being loved and tends to forbid herself any emotional fulfillment. An austere or somewhat traumatic childhood experience may be the source of this behavior. It is difficult for her inner self to be detached from this past life, and she sometimes has trouble reconciling the image she has of herself as an adult with the one she acquired back then. The idea she has of herself as an individual is related to the image her parents projected onto her as a child. Nevertheless, the past is history, and she is now an adult. It should be easy for her to rid herself of these phantoms through self-work. She has the ability to overcome her mistakes, as well as great endurance and will power to achieve her goals. Nevertheless, she must not repress her sensitivity in order to succeed.
Insecurities could cause Bella Wylie to crave order in her life and to prefer to do things according to a predetermined plan. Unfortunately, because Bella Wylie’s logic and vision tend to be somewhat short-sighted, it requires a great effort for Bella Wylie to adapt to a situation. Bella Wylie is rigid, might struggle to make friends easily, and is sometimes wary of relations with those Bella Wylie is most attracted to. Bella Wylie is a gifted worrywart.
Bella Wylie’s sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with their instincts. This inner discord makes Bella a fairly complicated relationship partner, and Bella’s behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. Bella is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of Bella’s life, and Bella’s relationships are most often motivated by Bella’s desires. Nevertheless, due to Bella’s unconscious inner battle, Bella does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling their emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of Bella’s instincts, passion may overwhelm them and drag them into situations they cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.
Love and Sensuality:
Bella Wylie is sometimes afraid to love – the world of her feelings is characterized by a certain chill and restraint. But she is not unfeeling; on the contrary, her sensitivity is so delicate that she is careful to protect it. Her determination to maintain control of her feelings and force her emotions to obey the laws of reason may stand in the way of intimacy and joy.
Bella Wylie’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. Bella Wylie enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with Bella Wylie’s gaze riveted on the future, Bella Wylie is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Serious and reserved, Bella Wylie does not seem to be centered on her emotional life. Nevertheless, she will be an exemplary and competent partner, loyal and devoted, as soon as she finds the right person to commit to.
Sensible and level-headed on the outside, Bella Wylie is a true romantic at heart. She dreams of a devoted admirer who will carry her off, far from home and who, most of all, will cure her latent emotional depression. But real life is more mundane, and she may end up with a lethargic or indifferent person who can give her neither security nor make her dream. Her golden dreams will fade as she takes control and manage her joint affairs.
Bella Wylie may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive her to seek pleasure. Her need for romantic fulfillment may compel her to marry, because she also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that she had indeed achieved success. However, privately, she might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, she might deny the commitments that her optimism and expansiveness made her rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting her romantic nature against the prerogatives of her career.
Mental and Intellect:
Bella Wylie is a flexible individual, and her intellectual faculties draw on sudden flashes of pure intuition as well as logical, rational thought. She has progressive, inventive, and sometimes utopian ideas; they usually relate to human or social problems. She always strives to be in the vanguard, creating a better world for the future.
Bella Wylie tries to shun subjectivity and be as objective as possible. Her thoughts are usually structured, and her reasoning, based on objective facts or experience, usually relates to practical goals.