Balcom Nestor is a serious, steadfast individual who tries to stay grounded. His ambitions are strong, and he will always be seeking a higher social position. Sometimes he adopts a strategy of solitude and introversion.
Balcom Nestor’s personality and behavior are liable to be disrupted by a contradiction between the masculine and feminine archetypes ruling his psyche. Because his sensitivity is in conflict with his determination, his attitude and performance may sometimes be moody, fluctuating, and uncertain. Usually, he has the feeling he has to make superhuman efforts to succeed in assuaging his yearnings and fulfilling his ambitions. His unconscious, sensitive side often disapproves of his conscious endeavors and stealthily works to defeat them, causing crucial omissions, mistakes, and gaps which effectively sabotage his plans. In his relationships, the images he builds up and projects on the other are contradictory. As a result, any bond, even if it is pleasant and positive, might also annoy him. He could find it dissatisfying and irritating at the same time.
Balcom Nestor is vigorous and energetic, and has an immense need to assert his individuality. His attitudes and actions are actually motivated by an unconscious desire for power. He puzzles the people close to him, who cannot understand whether his behavior is the result of pure selfishness or merely of an excess of energy. He is lively, alert, and determined, but he is too easily distracted from goals by futile competition or opportunities to exhibit his power. He has a short temper and must learn to control his impulsiveness, which might expose him to a great deal of unnecessary conflict.
Balcom Nestor has a taste for luxury and magnificence, for a dazzling social life and a distinguished career. When things are going well for him, he tends to think of himself as the center of the universe, an attitude which those close to him do not always appreciate. Although he is quite likely to succeed in his ambition to become wealthy and popular and lead a remarkable life in the outer world, his lack of moderation and overweening self-confidence expose him to some danger. His exaggerated optimism could create difficulties by causing him to make errors in judgment.
You are an individual who is very independent and believes that the most important values in life are freedom and independence. You have abandoned the conventions and habits of your social class and adopted an innovative lifestyle. Sometimes your passionate convictions can be troublesome, as you are an uncompromising partner. You must learn to recognize your own limitations and accept the responsibilities you have to other people, or you are likely to find yourself continually embroiled in conflicting relationships. The roots of your somewhat extreme behavior probably lie in your relationship with your father or teachers when you were younger. For one reason or another, you may have rejected the paternal image or refused to identify with your father, in the same way as you now refuse to adopt any values related to convention, tradition, or widespread usage. In every important life decision you make as an adult, you rely on yourself to elaborate the appropriate behavior, and the limits you must impose on your desires in relation to reality and the law.
Balcom Nestor is pragmatic and realistic. He evaluates people and things according to practical, common-sense criteria instead of abstract concepts. A sensualist and lover of luxury, Balcom Nestor takes great joy in physical pleasures. In relation to others, socially and privately, Balcom Nestor likes to build stable relationships and is not especially fond of change. His warmth gives him a great deal of ease when meeting people, as clients (for business purposes), but his close relations also benefit from this affection and his ability to express his feelings naturally and openly.
Balcom Nestor maintains strong ties with his past, and it often seems difficult for him to open his heart to new people. His love affairs exist on the surface level, because his lust and sensual desire rarely turn into a need to understand, protect, and care for the other. Moreover, it is difficult for him to meet partners who combine the ideals of the tender parent and the great lover.
Balcom Nestor hides his sensitivity and inclination towards intense emotions. He enjoys sexuality and his relationships, which are usually passionate, are motivated by his desires. He would find a career that placed him in contact with troubled people rewarding.
Balcom Nestor tries to express his affections in the most graceful and harmonious way possible. Indeed, he possesses an innate sense of harmony and strives for a love relationship characterized by balance and perfection. He tends to idealize both his partner and the institution of marriage. Any disillusionment he encounters in the pursuit of his ideal may be experienced as a frustration. He does not always ply his powers of seduction skillfully.
Balcom Nestor’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is expressed in a direct and fairly impulsive way. He enjoys reaching out to other people and making discoveries. An eternal teenager with his gaze riveted on the future, he is imbued with an eminently subjective and personal idealism.
Balcom Nestor glows with a youthful simplicity and dewy freshness that make him very endearing. Quite sensitive to physical attraction, he loves blithely and lustily. Because he needs to feel free and independent, a possessive partner would be a bad match for him. Even when committed, he will cling to his taste for freedom, refusing monotony.
Balcom Nestor is attractive and flirtatious; he tends to be concerned only with his social successes and romantic conquests. His trusting nature has often led him to make a misguided choice in romantic affairs. Maturity and a second marriage will finally bring him the stable, happy relationship he longs for.
You are a passionate and ardent person, and your relationships are enlivened by intensity and passion. A charmer perpetually engaged in a quest for the ideal love, you are often more in love with the idea of love than with a partner. As a result, your love life may be subject to some instability. You are generally attracted to original people who defy norms, standards, and classifications, and expect them to amaze and fascinate you. Your greatest contradictions surface when an intimate relationship is established. Although you merge your ego entirely into the couple, you are likely to demand a total autonomy and liberty which are inimical to intimacy. If your partner charms and captivates you long enough, there is some possibility that they will form a more solid bond with you; otherwise, you are likely to yield to your need for novelty and fall under the spell of an entirely different person who exerts a new kind of charm for you.
Midlife may be a turning point for you from this point of view. Your contradictory attitude may in some ways hide a compulsion to reject and deny the bonds of dependency inherent to a love relationship. Your behavior enables you to remain aloof, to commit yourself only halfway without consciously admitting it to yourself, and to avoid feeling guilty if and when you lose interest. An insatiable appetite for novelty and exaltation sometimes keeps you from forming stable relationships. Indeed, you are tormented by the struggle between your undeniable need for affection and an equally imperious desire for personal progress and emancipation. As a result of this inner turmoil, your romantic aspirations are usually sabotaged sooner or later by your conviction that your partner has become an obstacle to your individual progress. Because you think of love as a restraint, you may even eventually consciously refuse any emotional approach to love interests. As an ascetic, you will try to deflect the love function from its natural target and use the energy and bliss it generates for other purposes, the process psychologists call sublimation. However, you are also likely to meet “the one” who inspires you to initiate a change in your behavior.
You are a complex individual, filled with contradictions. You sometimes feel vulnerable emotionally, so you try to control not only your own feelings and urges, but also those of your partners. You aspire to a profound and enduring spiritual unity, but at the same time, the idea of abandoning yourself and yielding to the other terrifies you. This anguish may be a source of rather extreme behavior patterns and a somewhat self-focused attitude which could damage the relationship. Because you are guarded and somewhat secretive, you tend to be suspicious and are especially uneasy about spontaneous intimacy, although you are fascinated by sexuality. Within the privacy of the couple, you will not express your feelings unless there is some tension. Life is likely to be peppered with frequent crises and feuds, arguments and spats, which usually act as erotic provocation. This derivation of eroticism from anxiety tends to be one of the fundamental characteristics of your emotional and sexual functioning. As a result, you are likely to be attracted to stormy and complicated relationships.
Balcom Nestor is more theoretical than logical and more intuitive than rational when it comes to thinking about vast subjects. He is attracted to wide open spaces and distant horizons; as a scholar, he feels an affinity for higher studies such as philosophy or law. However, foreign languages or contacts abroad might also interest him.
Balcom Nestor does not express his thoughts and ideas smoothly or easily. He tends to be subjective, seeking to know himself better through a process of introversion.
Balcom Nestor has an intellect and wit that can be slowed down because he is oriented inward. He seldom tries to communicate with others just for the pleasure of it. He sometimes feels misunderstood and it is difficult for him to express the complexity of his inner perceptions.
Balcom Nestor has a mind full of knowledge and an exceptional ability to learn. Without trying too hard, he could probably accumulate encyclopedic erudition. His intellectual curiosity is such that it is sometimes a drawback. He sometimes has trouble limiting himself to a single subject without being distracted by a multitude of others. Discipline and a conscious effort at organization will be of great help to him if he wants to deepen his learning and judgment. Once his intellectual faculties are disciplined, he is likely to succeed in any of the following fields: teaching, historical scholarship, advertising, writing (journalistic or literary), travel, etc. – in fact, communication in any form.