What does Ali Koehler’s psychology tell us about them?

Ali Koehler is searching for stability. He wants to find a firm, unchanging structure for his life. But his efforts to achieve this ideal are often vain, because unconsciously, he is also inhabited by the opposite desire. Every time he reaches what he believes to be a good balance, he realizes he wants something entirely different. He should become aware that the concepts of stability and balance are difficult to apply to life. By definition, life is movement, change, and perpetual instability.

Ali Koehler has a paternal complex and, as a result, some trouble finding her identity. Perhaps her father or a father figure was absent physically or emotionally during her childhood, which deprived her of the patterns or models which are usually helpful in structuring a personality. Because she might have lacked a particular sense of security which could be provided by a paternal presence, as well as the examples of behavior to follow in confronting the difficulties inherent in every life, she was forced to protect herself against negative influences and find her own system in order to grow and feel secure. Although this system was quite useful to her as a child, it has now settled in to such a degree that it interferes with her evolution. Psychological defense mechanisms and crutches which were once useful now encumber her mind or inhibit her developmental efforts. As a result, in certain situations, it is difficult for her to assert herself, and she tends to remain an awkward or passive observer. Because her authoritarian urges are mainly directed at herself rather than others, she sometimes feels guilty about her behavior. She judges herself severely, and sometimes punishes herself by setting difficult tasks for herself. Gradually, she should build up a strong inner discipline and acquire the strength to face the problems of existence in a detached and mature way.

Ali Koehler has an immense need to assert her individuality and this motivates her to rush into action despite the frequent threat of risk and danger. Because she has very little control over her energy and impulses, she sometimes injures herself bodily or starts arguments without really having meant to do so. She has a short temper and would do well to learn to control her recklessness, which exposes her to a great deal of unnecessary conflict and adversity. She is also likely to start projects which are not really appropriate to her, only to be forced to quit soon after. Before she makes any important decision, she must learn to stop and ask herself if what she is about to do is really positive for her.

Ali Koehler enjoys sharing and has a constant need for contact with other people. She tends to be free and uninhibited in her relations with other people, rarely allowing herself to be influenced by convention or prevailing opinion; she associates with whomever she pleases. This attitude makes her life refreshing and exciting, and she is never bored. In career terms, she is quite gifted for any field related to communication, where her intellectual singularity and lively wit would make her an amazing hit. She would also be likely to succeed in any activity where the work required a multidisciplinary approach: teaching, advertising, politics, etc.

Ali Koehler has an inalienable awareness of the void and the vanity of existence. He is sometimes disoriented and deconstructed by an unknowable, unconscious force and tends to ignore or disparage the superficial pleasures and pains of daily life, preferring to dive into the depths of human experience as deeply as his intellectual, emotional, and spiritual capacities permit. Grappling with his “fundamental nature,” with the deepest and most primitive part of himself, he is sometimes aghast at the discovery of the sheer power of the life instinct and feels an imperious need to cope with it. This special consciousness he has been endowed with is somewhat beyond the bounds of conventional schools of human understanding and thought and may be a source of identity problems for him at the outset. It is not easy for him to recognize himself in any social or narcissistic models or identify with any existing roles or attitudes, so he sometimes finds himself forced to construct and assert his own identity on a basis which may impress others with its intensity, if not its eccentricity.

Ali Koehler is mild and sensitive. He is deeply human, sociable, and devoted to others. His mother or a mother-figure had a strong influence on his psyche, and his childhood was an important time in his life. He still identifies with vivid childhood memories; they are the basis for his reveries, for his extreme sensitivity, and for habits which he may be slow to break. However, he will thrive in the shelter of a family setting, soothed by the presence of a spouse and children. He is fond of security and routine; being somewhat impressionable and anxious, he may have trouble adjusting to situations which are unfamiliar.

Ali Koehler has a lively, agile, and sensitive intellect. However, he does not always avail himself of it and may be confused or irrational in some situations. Although he enjoys playing with words, ideas, and concepts, his thought sometimes lacks discipline and structure. He is fairly preoccupied with details and may tend to waste his nervous and mental energy in futile verbal outpourings. Moreover, his feelings sometimes blur his objective vision of phenomena and people, which may cause him to make errors in judgment.

Ali Koehler has a sensitive and affectionate nature. She seeks tenderness and gentleness more than passion. Her relationships with others are smooth and pleasant, and she has a natural sense of tact and social grace.

Ali Koehler is a cheerful, expansive, pleasant associate to have. He is extremely generous (sometimes to a fault!) and gives of himself and his belongings unstintingly. This positive psychological outlook is the result of a happy childhood and especially an extremely beneficial maternal influence in infancy. He is quite likely to be a professional success; his vision of the world is perfectly adapted to prevailing opinion, and his urges and desires for personal expansion usually elicit a positive reaction from society. By old age, his good reputation and prominence may have earned him fame.

Ali Koehler hid and protected her sensitivity behind a fairly cool, aloof exterior. She was conservative, respectful of tradition and convention, and liked to follow the rules. Because she needed stability to alleviate her feelings of frustration and sometimes emotional dependency, she had great faith in contracts which sealed relationships. Her ties to her past were fairly strong. They were a source of reassurance and safety, because her parents likely gave her a lot.

Ali Koehler’s sensitivity and emotions are sometimes in conflict with her instincts. This inner discord makes her a fairly complicated relationship partner, and her behavior sometimes strikes others as mysterious or baffling. She is liable to switch from one attitude to the opposite. Sexuality is an important part of her life, and her relationships are most often motivated by her desires. Nevertheless, due to her unconscious inner battle, she does not often succeed in reconciling and fulfilling her emotional and sexual needs. Due to the strength of her instincts, passion may overwhelm her and drag her into situations she cannot always control, which intermingle erotic ecstasy and anguish, guilt, and aggressiveness.

Ali Koehler is fairly shy, reserved, and discreet when it comes to matters of the heart. Even in intimate moments, she remains modest and does not always readily express her feelings. She is sensitive and giving, wishing to be of service to those she loves. She deserves to be made as happy as she makes her partners.

Ali Koehler’s birth chart indicates an emotional function which is usually expressed carefully and reasonably. Distrustful of her emotional urges and somewhat wary of her feelings, she tries to rid herself of all partiality and try to get some perspective and distance before making an emotional commitment.

According to the foregoing, it appears that you are torn between different tendencies in your character. An inner conflict exists between your desire to stand out and your need for attachment, between your social ambitions and your longings for security, between your natural selfishness and your altruism. As a result, you are likely to become attached to a prominent person you can be proud of. Your own social position may disappoint you, but the satisfaction you derive from your loved ones or your children, should you choose to have them, will make up for your feeling you have lived vicariously.

Ali Koehler gets his kicks from debate and the satisfaction of a job well done. Like his house, his relationship will be extremely well organized. No pointless bickering or small talk. He’ll prioritize sharing social success in his partnership.

Ali Koehler may be characterized by strong sensual and affectionate urges which drive her to seek pleasure. Her need for romantic fulfillment may compel her to marry, because she also seeks the legal and social legitimacy the institution of marriage confers on an emotional bond. Indeed, the household is liable to be prosperous and even opulent, as if this offered further evidence that she had indeed achieved success. However, privately, she might be less committed to certain obligations and duties. At worst, she might deny the commitments that her optimism and expansiveness made her rush into too soon. If this were to be the case, the outward image of the couple’s success (wealth and comfort, etc.) would only be a façade which compensated for its emotional impoverishment and failure. Sooner or later, this hypocrisy might provoke a full-blown conflict. A second possibility is that a psychic incompatibility may gradually take root, pitting her romantic nature against the prerogatives of her career.

Ali Koehler has a romantic imagination, soaring with idealism, dreams, and poetry. She is emotive and hypersensitive, making her especially vulnerable emotionally, since she is sometimes overwhelmed by her feelings and affects. Although she seeks an ideal soulmate, a partner with whom she could maintain blissful, smooth relations, she is sometimes met with disillusionment. Because her rather excessive sensitivity and her need to merge with the other are deep and powerful enough, they can submerge her judgment and discernment, so she sometimes forms extremely intense bonds too quickly with individuals who are not appropriate partners in many ways. When she meets someone, she falls under the enchantment of her dream of ideal love and cannot keep herself from delighting in a reverie of future romance, placing the other on a pedestal. Early on in the relationship, she yields to another of her characteristic urges and loses herself in the individual who is so dear to her, melding with them, only to awaken one morning and find herself as if in the arms of a stranger, greatly astounded and disappointed. Actually, her psyche is constructed in such a way as to make her sensitivity a function of the environment, in many cases; it follows the flow of momentary emotions and impressions. Before she takes on any major commitments, she should make a conscious effort to evaluate the relationship realistically, and see whether the person really reciprocates her intense love, for she may merely be in love with the mirage of an ideal partner. Her tendency to believe in her illusions may mark her as an easy prey for people with bad intentions. It would be a good idea for her to find a different object for her affections, or a form of sublimation, because she tends to be so disappointed by her great emotional investments. The delicacy and subtlety of her imagination procure artistic refinement for her, and she loves the arts, music, and literature, which could all be good sources of emotional involvement and fulfillment. Because her sensitivity also makes it easy for her to empathize with the psychological or social difficulties her peers are struggling with, she might also find it rewarding to commit herself to social work.

Ali Koehler’s intellect, which is simultaneously subjective and sensitive, acute and intuitive, always practical and deeply rooted in human experience, predisposes her to a people-oriented activity. With her memory and imagination combined with her shrewdness, she would be a gifted project manager, businesswoman, or scholar of history or literature.

Ali Koehler expresses her thoughts and ideas carefully, but with a relative lack of spontaneity. She is rather introverted and looks inside herself for the solutions to the problems she encounters in life. Because she tends to mistrust customary thought patterns, her opinion is usually highly personal.

Ali Koehler’s intellectual faculties and wit are sometimes slowed down because they are turned outward. Because he tends to be oriented toward others, he rarely tries to communicate with them for the simple pleasure of doing so. Indeed, he sometimes feels misunderstood. Moreover, it seems difficult for him to express the complexity of his inner perceptions.

In relations with other people, Ali Koehler usually behaves kindly and persuasively. He has a certain charm and is adept at smoothing the asperities of what he has to say when it is necessary. This aspect of his personality is a great advantage to him socially; however, in situations where he must either compete or deal with direct conflict and hostility, he may be somewhat at a loss for how to behave. He has an undeniable gift for oratory which could be applied to a communications-related occupation or to artistic expression (as a stage or screen actor). Writing and dance, two other arts which associate expression and movement, might also be fields in which he would excel.

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